Survival Guide for Spiritual Mommas

The last two years I’ve closed myself up, and kept quiet with the majority of my issues and feelings. PPD struck me hard and deep- and for the longest time I sat in my house ready to scream or cry.

Truthfully, I had the deep momma blues. It’s tough being a mother, it’s almost an upheaval of anything or everything we’ve ever known. Privacy? Alone time? Shower? What are those things again?

If you’ve never experienced this as a mother you’re either a liar or an unicorn.

Us moms got to find a way to survive and keep our spirits lifted- it’s a frustrating, never ending cycle of dirty diapers, messy house, pile of laundry, and exhausted morning.

  1. Routines will be your best friends.

Yep. Your best friend is going to be that to do list, and the organization you keep with it. This doesn’t mean everyday will be the same- that will drive you up a wall. It’s also ideal to keep in mind it’s fine to deviant from the routine time to time and not to follow a strict one.

Kids will always find a way to deviant you from this. 

But the good thing with routines is you can organize your time to where you have FREE TIME. (What’s that? I haven’t seen that in forever!) You’ll create time to be able to take care of yourself, your needs, and take a breather.

2. Healthy diet 

Yeah, we all know after a long day all we want to do is snack on those yummy nuggets your child didn’t finish, or to pop a tasty cake in your mouth. It’s easy and doesn’t use up much energy.

But I’ve found that if I take that energy to make healthy foods I actually have more energy and feel more focused. This includes drinking the recommended amount of water for yourself. 

3. Create alone time.

HAH. Alone time! But don’t laugh too much, this is VERY important. Once or twice a month be sure to pick those days out in advance and get yourself out of the house. Tell your partner, or ask a trusted friend to help you get a little freedom. Even if it’s just taking a walk, or sitting at a park. You need to decompress and reflect on your life, desires, hopes, and dreams. 

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Affirmations for a Boss Momma and Her Struggles

It’s not doubt in my mind that being a mother is hard. My son is almost two and I’ve been tested more than once. It’s taken time to learn the right level of patience with a wild soul of a child. My son is hyper active and some how- has endless energy to destroy.

One thing no one told motherhood would be filled with so much trial and error, sadness, and frustration. In the first year of my son’s life I isolated myself and shut myself in my home. No one checked up on me, and no one asked to see me nor my son.

I felt alone, and there was endless chores and messes- even to this day I constantly have a sink full of dishes, unkeep hair, hand prints all of my walls and lap, and undone laundry. Balancing his needs, my house needs, my work and clients has been the bane of my existence and sometimes I wish I never had to sleep so I could at least 20 minutes to myself.

Someone always thinks they have the answer to your issues, and people who have never been a mother or parent will give you advice that is just so beyond irrelevant and impossible to follow that you think one of these days you’re just going to plan explode. 

I’ve been there, and some days, I still am. My son is only almost two and the worse hasn’t even came yet. This article isn’t to say I’m perfect and I have all the answers- because truthfully I am still there with you- I’m still frusated most days, and most days I’m so exhausted. Hey- some days I ignore chores because sometimes I just can’t muster the energy or motivation to do it.

But I’ve found that these affirmations help me stay balanced, focused, and centered.

“I have the ability to stay patient through out the day”

“I give myself permission to relax and take things as the go”

“I have the innate wisdom to take care of my child and myself today.”

“Today is a new day, and brings new blessings”

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Quotes You Need To Hear About Tarot 

“The tarot embodies symbolic presentations of universal ideas, behind which lie all the implicits of the human mind, and it is in this sense they contain secret doctrine, which is the realisation by the few of truths embedded in the consciousness of all”

A. E. Waite
“Tarot brings us out of ourselves. It moves our perceptions outwards and onto the cards. Rather than living with the possibility imagined in our mind’s eye, the possibility is spread on the table before us.”
Sasha Graham
“The tarot is an outer oracle of which the inner oracle is the source”
Philippe St Genoux
“All divination resembles an attempt by a man born blind to obtain sight by getting blind drunk.”
Aleister Crowley (writing as Frater Perdurabo), Tarot Divination
I cannot promise to be a Tarot reader who doesn’t make any mistakes or knows the future with complete certainty. But I can promise that through my humanity, I will help you with the best of my ability and with the purest intentions.
― Ivan Ambrose
“Working slowly is essential. You are trying to heal old wounds, not create new ones. Do not look for rapid change. In our fast-paced, flick-of-the-switch culture, it is tempting to seek immediate results. You have probably been responding to life in a set of patterns for years: it will take time to change your responses.”
Tarot Shadow Work 
“Tarot Cards are the best friend you can ever have. They are always there for you.”
Nikita Dudani
“One of the techniques that I found most helpful was studying and reading Tarot cards using side-by-side comparisons of the same card from multiple decks. Looking at the same card via different decks adds valuable nuances of meaning. I named this technique the ‘Comparative Tarot Method’…”
Valerie Sim, Tarot Outside the Box
 “There seem to be only two kinds of people:
Those who think that metaphors are facts,
and those who know that they are not facts.
…Which group really gets the message?”
Joseph Campbell

Why You Should Practice Gratitude Right Now

Being grateful is important to changing your mindset and being able to create a much more positive approach to life. 

I remember once when I was younger and going through what was the hardest part of my life- my therapist once said to me: Being happy is some thing we do. It doesn’t come to you. While there are things that happen to us that are traumtic we have a chance everyday when we wake up- to make the effort to have a good day. 

Though- let’s be realistic, life is hard. Life throws curve balls, and I don’t agree that happiness is an all the time thing. (Actually- being happy all the time is unhealthy.) The reason is stuck out to me was where the conversation led to.

Mindset.

He spoke of how to try to create more happiness. He went onto saying that there is a tool to help you maintain a positive outlook when you wake up: Gratitude.

Gratitude is important because you count your blessing. You focus on what is going right. You focus on what you do have, and not what you DON’T have. It creates a more positive self talk, and reminds you of what’s great about your life.

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Why Being Spiritual Made Me A Better Mom

When I saw that plus sign- I knew it was going to get hard, harder than it had ever been for me. The hardest thing for me to keep balanced in my life was my patience and my temper. By no means has being patient ever been my best skill and to be honest, it was pretty much at zero percent mastered. To say the least, motherhood had been a very terrifying prospect for me.

Right before that plus sign I had exited an awful, toxic relationship that left me in need of healing more than ever. I found comfort and answers in my spiritual world more than ever. It taught me so much about balance, the gift of asking, and the power of my mindset. The sheer idea that my will could manifest all I wanted, and that it did. In those short months I had entirely rebuilt my goals and life- for the most part.

The issue was again, I had trouble with just how worried about my patience and temper. But I learned slowly, as I continued practicing mindful behavior, grounding techniques/ and mediating I handled issues being thrown at me. It was almost like the universe was giving me a crash course as to how to gain these such heavily valued skills for any new mother.

There is a funny thing about The Universe, and how it gives us what we need in such odd ways. I did my work for my patience and to finally grasp control on my temper. I was manifesting situations that gave me hands on experience with coping with everything.

Spirituality honed my intuitive nature, it helped me be able to more thoroughly feel my own feelings, helped me heal age old wounds- it helped me so deeply and prepared me for the moment my son was placed in my arms.

Due to my traumas I was a cold heart, miserable little child. I was selfish but in all the wrong ways. I learned from focusing on my spirituality that expressing feelings is not weak, but one of the strongest acts you can do.