Survival Guide for Spiritual Mommas

The last two years I’ve closed myself up, and kept quiet with the majority of my issues and feelings. PPD struck me hard and deep- and for the longest time I sat in my house ready to scream or cry.

Truthfully, I had the deep momma blues. It’s tough being a mother, it’s almost an upheaval of anything or everything we’ve ever known. Privacy? Alone time? Shower? What are those things again?

If you’ve never experienced this as a mother you’re either a liar or an unicorn.

Us moms got to find a way to survive and keep our spirits lifted- it’s a frustrating, never ending cycle of dirty diapers, messy house, pile of laundry, and exhausted morning.

  1. Routines will be your best friends.

Yep. Your best friend is going to be that to do list, and the organization you keep with it. This doesn’t mean everyday will be the same- that will drive you up a wall. It’s also ideal to keep in mind it’s fine to deviant from the routine time to time and not to follow a strict one.

Kids will always find a way to deviant you from this. 

But the good thing with routines is you can organize your time to where you have FREE TIME. (What’s that? I haven’t seen that in forever!) You’ll create time to be able to take care of yourself, your needs, and take a breather.

2. Healthy diet 

Yeah, we all know after a long day all we want to do is snack on those yummy nuggets your child didn’t finish, or to pop a tasty cake in your mouth. It’s easy and doesn’t use up much energy.

But I’ve found that if I take that energy to make healthy foods I actually have more energy and feel more focused. This includes drinking the recommended amount of water for yourself. 

3. Create alone time.

HAH. Alone time! But don’t laugh too much, this is VERY important. Once or twice a month be sure to pick those days out in advance and get yourself out of the house. Tell your partner, or ask a trusted friend to help you get a little freedom. Even if it’s just taking a walk, or sitting at a park. You need to decompress and reflect on your life, desires, hopes, and dreams. 

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Affirmations for a Boss Momma and Her Struggles

It’s not doubt in my mind that being a mother is hard. My son is almost two and I’ve been tested more than once. It’s taken time to learn the right level of patience with a wild soul of a child. My son is hyper active and some how- has endless energy to destroy.

One thing no one told motherhood would be filled with so much trial and error, sadness, and frustration. In the first year of my son’s life I isolated myself and shut myself in my home. No one checked up on me, and no one asked to see me nor my son.

I felt alone, and there was endless chores and messes- even to this day I constantly have a sink full of dishes, unkeep hair, hand prints all of my walls and lap, and undone laundry. Balancing his needs, my house needs, my work and clients has been the bane of my existence and sometimes I wish I never had to sleep so I could at least 20 minutes to myself.

Someone always thinks they have the answer to your issues, and people who have never been a mother or parent will give you advice that is just so beyond irrelevant and impossible to follow that you think one of these days you’re just going to plan explode. 

I’ve been there, and some days, I still am. My son is only almost two and the worse hasn’t even came yet. This article isn’t to say I’m perfect and I have all the answers- because truthfully I am still there with you- I’m still frusated most days, and most days I’m so exhausted. Hey- some days I ignore chores because sometimes I just can’t muster the energy or motivation to do it.

But I’ve found that these affirmations help me stay balanced, focused, and centered.

“I have the ability to stay patient through out the day”

“I give myself permission to relax and take things as the go”

“I have the innate wisdom to take care of my child and myself today.”

“Today is a new day, and brings new blessings”

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Simple Self-Care Acts to Change Your Day

“I am a mom on a mission” has been my most used phrase lately- because really, my wheels never stop going. But after my recent vacation from work and social media I left with a lot of very, very important lessons. One was- the importance of really making sure my self-care routine is respected.

For the first year of my son’s life- man, did I really stop taking care of myself. There were times where I forgot when the last time a bathe was. Yikes, right?

So the last month I have dedicated myself to my self-care, but what if you’re on the go, busy bee?

One thing I do for myself is make sure my hair is done, my face is clean, and my teeth are brushed. You’re probably like, “wow that’s gross you have to remind yourself to do this.” But I’ve noticed that these three things are often popularly forgotten and need to put on higher respect.

If you suffer from depression- you probably understand this all to well. It is often to easily put off to the side for us who have depression. So how do I fit my minimalist self care into my life?

I made a 10 minute routine because the faster the better. Sometimes I even do all of them in the shower so all of it is taken care of at once. (Yes you heard that, I even brush my hair in the shower.) I motivate myself by telling myself that yes, I WILL feel damn well better after I do this. This is also repeated right before bed- minus the shower. Why? Because it’ll lend hand in starting the day feeling just a little less gross.

Another way to fit in a small but effective self care act is vitamins. I pledge allegiance to the magically power of vitamins. We’ve all tried to eat nutritionally, but even when we try we still don’t always manage to get the right amount of vitamins into our body- and man ever since I started taking my vitamins (I take 12 a day!) I have had more energy, my skin is better, my hair has grown like a weed, and my nails are longer than ever.

Nutrition is often forgotten when we discuss self-care- we will usually discuss the frills and decor of what self-care is- taking bubble baths, doing facial masks, and painting our nails- but that is not realistic daily self-care. This is not what gets us day to day- these are what I consider- luxury self-care.

One of my favorite ways to practice self care is to protect my mental status with grounding and mindfulness. Taking a second to remind myself that I am actually alive and not a zombie going through the motions. Taking ten minutes max to truly feel something and just be is the most important thing to me- out of all the things I have mentions. I will literally take a minute and smell these goddamn roses!