Simple Self-Care Acts to Change Your Day

“I am a mom on a mission” has been my most used phrase lately- because really, my wheels never stop going. But after my recent vacation from work and social media I left with a lot of very, very important lessons. One was- the importance of really making sure my self-care routine is respected.

For the first year of my son’s life- man, did I really stop taking care of myself. There were times where I forgot when the last time a bathe was. Yikes, right?

So the last month I have dedicated myself to my self-care, but what if you’re on the go, busy bee?

One thing I do for myself is make sure my hair is done, my face is clean, and my teeth are brushed. You’re probably like, “wow that’s gross you have to remind yourself to do this.” But I’ve noticed that these three things are often popularly forgotten and need to put on higher respect.

If you suffer from depression- you probably understand this all to well. It is often to easily put off to the side for us who have depression. So how do I fit my minimalist self care into my life?

I made a 10 minute routine because the faster the better. Sometimes I even do all of them in the shower so all of it is taken care of at once. (Yes you heard that, I even brush my hair in the shower.) I motivate myself by telling myself that yes, I WILL feel damn well better after I do this. This is also repeated right before bed- minus the shower. Why? Because it’ll lend hand in starting the day feeling just a little less gross.

Another way to fit in a small but effective self care act is vitamins. I pledge allegiance to the magically power of vitamins. We’ve all tried to eat nutritionally, but even when we try we still don’t always manage to get the right amount of vitamins into our body- and man ever since I started taking my vitamins (I take 12 a day!) I have had more energy, my skin is better, my hair has grown like a weed, and my nails are longer than ever.

Nutrition is often forgotten when we discuss self-care- we will usually discuss the frills and decor of what self-care is- taking bubble baths, doing facial masks, and painting our nails- but that is not realistic daily self-care. This is not what gets us day to day- these are what I consider- luxury self-care.

One of my favorite ways to practice self care is to protect my mental status with grounding and mindfulness. Taking a second to remind myself that I am actually alive and not a zombie going through the motions. Taking ten minutes max to truly feel something and just be is the most important thing to me- out of all the things I have mentions. I will literally take a minute and smell these goddamn roses!

 

 

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How I Changed My Life- For the Best

For people who know me, they can testify for me about what a large life transformation I’ve gone through the last two years. I am much healthier, much happier, and so much more balanced. It’s taken me a really long time since getting clean to really detox from the addict mindset.

Even with being clean there was still that tricky, I-Am-More-Clever-Than-You attidude I had, which had a deadly mixture with all avoidance of the fact that I was in fact an addict.

After I quit- I thought that was the freeing card. No more work- what a fool was I ! Yes- that is right, my mind set was once I was clean it would all slowly fall into place.

So wrong- so totally freaking wrong.

It took me almost 6 long years to learn that if the change I wanted was to come- it was going to have to be achieved through my own sweat, blood, and tears.

So how did I change my life? I accepted I had fucked up- yes I fucked up. And to be honest- I was still messing up pretty bad.

When I finally did that- I was able to look into the mirror and really, really examine my choices and behaviors. And what struck me was: Even though I wasn’t using, I was still acting like an active addict.

It was now time to release all of those behaviors and self defeating thoughts I let clutter my life.

And that is what changed my life. Taking a real close look at myself in the mirror and not liking who I still was.

When You Miss A Call, The Universe Screams

I can’t tell you how many times the Universe has grabbed me by my shirt and said, “You’re going to start listening to me or I’m going to get mean.” Ah yes, there have been times when we have thought about how cruel of a mistress our universe can be, sometimes it’s down right nasty and unfair.

But think about it, when someone doesn’t listen to your advice or warnings don’t you get a little pissy? The Universe and the Divine are close to that, a force that sometimes has to get a little pushy for use to start listening.

The Universe is always sending us messages once we open up to it- but these bad boys can often be a little scripted and unclear. There have been many times that the Universe has been like, ” Look, Alexis this is a bad idea stop it.” and after I ignore it- BAM. Hits me harder than it ever had before.

 

Though, how do you know whats a message? Oddly placed things, or when you have two choices, the one your heart and gut tells you to choose is the one you should always pick. We notice them, but we brush them off. Stop brushing off those “”coincidences”” and start seeing those god instances. Nothing is a mistake, and everything has a meaning.

Recently, a good friend of mind suffered a great loss- her husband had died. Her phone started acting odd- playing her husband’s pandora list. She figure out why, and her phone kept glitching, bringing up music she hadn’t listened to on her youtube recents.

When she was on her way to my house- it happened one more time: but to someone who code decode the message. Her husband’s spirit had been trying to contact her and when she pulled down my road she realized: it was HIS recently played music. All of the music had meaning; it told her a story, a story of their relationship.

It wasn’t a mistake. It wasn’t a glitch- it was the work of a collaboration of the Universe and her husband: both telling her that it’s not her fault, he isn’t mad, and it’s time to fulfill her life’s purpose- which she was putting off because of him.

The Day of a Spiritual Momma

If you don’t know, I’m a young mother to a beautiful little boy who recently turned one. When my journey began I hadn’t ever thought a child was apart of my plan, especially at the age of 18. But he is a blessing, a light in my life that wasn’t expected. My experience with the divine and sacred motherhood was healing, uplifting, and powers me. It is powerful, and their is no bond, no understanding like the one between child and mother.

But days can be long and hard- sometimes I am faced with emotional blocks and physical fatigue that I’ve never knew could be possible.

5 am: Wake up- my breakfast for husband and his lunch, start coffee, drink water.

5:45 am: Yoga to soft music.

6:20 am: Read clients and/or work on blog posts and/or newsletter

7:30: Make morning smoothie, make son’s breakfast, wake son up.

8:00: Spend time with son, reply to emails and messages as they come in.

11:00: Feed son, put him down for nap time, make myself another meal, drink water, spend time in reflecting. Fit clients in as needed.

12:00-3:00: teach my son, play games, nurture him.

3:20: Greet husband, watch them play and interact, make wholesome dinner. Celebrate and talk about our days together.

4:00 Shower, cleanse myself, take time to reflect again. Through out my day I try to reflect and consider things- afterwards I fit replies and emails in.

7:00: Bedtime. This can sometimes take awhile since we do not believe in CIO. After this I relax, and reconnect with my husband and attend to  more business.

Indigo Children: The Truth

As a member of the Spiritual Community the term Indigo Child is one of the most known and used openly. You’ll see it a lot, “Known Indigo Child” or “My child the Indigo baby!” They are celebrated and boosted as a trophy. But in reality- what IS this? What the REAL story?

My issue with the articles floating around is that they don’t really explain much. All it is most of the time is an article listing personality traits and diet habits. I mean really- it’s the same recycled piece over and over. Most of the time is is the same list and format.

If you don’t know where the term comes from then Google: Nancy Ann Tappe. She’s a parapsychology writer. If you’re into this type of literature that’s AWESOME, just bypass the negativity of harsh critics.

Indigo children are also closely related to Crystal Children and Star Children. Often they are all lumped together and treated like they’re the same thing. They’re not. Indigo children are less developed- while they have natural powers and can come into it- they tend to almost never really tap into them fully.

They are also prone to being seen as bratty, self center- though this is partly because they aren’t understood. They are the beginning of a change- thus they are a work in progress. They have a the need for room, the need to be heard and understood, and the need to be respected. Sadly though, because they are a middle ground for change they are not fully ready to: A) accept or understand why B) to be accepted or understood. These were and are the pioneers- the ones to start ASKING for these things.

These types of people are the beginning of no longer keeping negative relationships- this is often seen as selfish due to them often distancing themselves from parents. Conservative ideas tend to not accept this as reasonable: this is seen as being none thankful towards family “”effort””. They see through abusive behaviors that are paraded as good gestures, they know and can sense the true meaning of behaviors.

Indigo children want to break down old structures that are no longer working- thus they are seen as trouble makers too. ‘Don’t fix what isn’t broken,” well, they know it’s broken and isn’t working for everyone. These power structures in our society- they know it’s only fitted to the little and not the majority.

They demand a change and that scares a lot of people.

Beginning of a Spiritual Life Pt. 3

Part of my own spiritual adventure was recovering from traumas. I went through a lot of therapy and counseling as a child- still with that I struggled to really observe, process, and heal from it. There was still some sort of anger, remorse, self-blame, and most importantly: I didn’t understand why. Why was the biggest issue.

You’ll never hear me say: “Rape is God’s plan!” or “God throws the hard balls to those he think can handle it!”

Because that isn’t true- but spirituality helped me understand that I could come back from it. It helped me understand that there was nothing I could do but move forward, because it did not defeat me. I DID nothing. I DIDN’T deserve it. Most importantly, I could channel my energy into something more productive.

During my Theories of Chemical Dependency and Abuse class in college there was a Chapter called: The mixing puzzle piece. The Chapter reviewed the lacking element in any Recovery from a controlled substance: the health of the spiritual side. I think it may be a very important piece of recovery, people who are recovering need a lot of healing, a lot of balancing, and need to focus on staying and being grounded.

Spirituality is all about giving what you get, and understanding the give and take behavior of the Universe. Especially with someone recovering from drugs- understanding the idea that feeding into negativity only breeds more negativity is vital to moving forward. While yes, therapy teaches, I feel as though when you BELIEVE in these word, these idea, these boundaries it makes for a more divine, and profound recovery.

Beginning my spiritual path meant one thing for me: finally surrendering that I was not always in control and that it is okay to not always be in control.

 

Signs of Deceased Family Members

It’s great to experience the phenomena of having a decease family member visit you– after I delivered my son I was visited by a spirit who in my heart and mind was my grandmother who had passed when I was fairly young. But, what are the signs that one who has passed is near? What are some symbols to look out for?

  1. Sparring

This is a small little bird, which is a commonly known symbols of a deceased loved one being around. You can see them flocking or peaking on the ground.

2. Perfume, cologne, or a scent you closely associate with them.

If you randomly smell them, this could very well be their way of reminding you that they are in fact there with you. This is also a very common way that they will show you that they are there. This is also a common report of people.

3. Things going missing.

Ever have something go missing and you just placed it there? Yep– they are walking among you. This might sign has more energy to it– and a larger message.

4. Dream Visitation

You might see them in your dream, and maybe you’ll be able to obtain an urgent message. You may be able to have a conversation with them. Do not think this is just a simple dream! This is their way of trying to contact you.

5. Electrical issues

Pop. Your light bulb burst. But it’s brand new! Yep, things like this are also a sign. We have all heard the theories of spirits needing to pull energy to manifest themselves– so it can’t be that hard that they would pull and cause surges to let you know they’re here for you.

6. Sensing

The best way of knowing? Simply knowing. You’ll know when they’re contacting you. Trust yourself on that.