Falling Back In Love With Life

I’ve experienced  a great amount of life in depressive dazes since I was a small child. For the majority of my teenaged years I spent it in an angers rage. To be honest, there was never a real point in my life where I was really happy. Until recently, my life was ruled by negative emotions and negative notions.

That was it- misery and apathetic was how it was going to be.

There is a point in everyone’s life where the must feel this way. It’s as though life is just a greyscale painting. As though everything is slowed down and you think to yourself, “This is my life, and it just sucks.” To be truthful, I’ve been here more than once. To be truthful again, this can also be an amazing point to be at.

 Why? At this point and time, you are aware of where you stand in your life. This is where you can change it. This is not where the unhappiness begun; this is just where you woke up to it. If you’ve felt this way before there is a good chance you’ve been unhappy for quite sometime and chances are, you weren’t loving life for a long time.

This is where changes bloom from. This is where you can get creative and here lies the question: are you ready to fall back into love with life?

If yes, what needs to change? What needs to be fixed? How are you going to productively change your life? 

It’s time to declutter your mind so you can declutter your life. It’s okay to shed old ideas, old friendships, old relationships, and old practices. Allow yourself to get rid of what no longer suits you. Please do it. Write down what’s been making you unhappy whether it is your weight, your marriage, your job, and so on. The important thing after this task is: why is it making you so unhappy or feeling stuck? Because after that step, you can now figure out how to actively fix and change it.

Let me tell you, falling back in love with life is possible and almost magical. It’s like waking up from a nightmare. It rearranging your bedroom during the spring time or changing your look after a bad break up.

Never stop giving life a chance, because it will always surprise you with the best gifts ever.

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Why I Became A Spiritual Coach 

                                            
Sometimes it feels unreal to me that I live the way I do. It’s odd to mirror the world that lives inside me. Lately I’ve been asked the same question by everyone I speak with and all my clients as to how and why I decided to go from a tarot reader to a spiritual coach. 

And at first, it took me a second to really think about this question. Why did I decide to switch gears? Is it because I’m falling out of love with reading? Of course not, I will always love reading tarot and plan on contuining reading professionally. But I discovered that my tarot readings don’t completely fill me up the way they did in the first place.

My drive is to touch and change as many lives as I can, actively changing the narrative and dialogue of the world around us. To teach people to be more loving, understanding, and welcoming, but also teach them how to actively do this in their own lives. 

Teaching people not to fear change- but to open up to it and let it in. To help people through their struggles, whether this manifests in a spiritual, mental, sexual, and physical issue. To help people move past blockages and to move past old patterns in their lives.

I want to help raise self awareness and awareness to what’s around us.

Yet, why do I hold this so dear to me? I’ve been through it. But unlike my clients, they don’t have to do it alone. A lot of my issues were due to isolating myself. It is also not having the tools to go out and look for help. It’s not having a real mentor who understood what was going on to me.
Our society is going through a very odd shift- and a lot of people are struggling to shift with it. I see things in society that I do not like, and instead of waiting around for someone else to do it, I want to be apart of what’s good for our society.

I want to help people transform. I want to guide people. I want to spread love and postivitu because I have lived with so much hate and darkness. To resolved hate and anger is my biggest goal for my clients- to be able to productively alter their reality in a good way.

Simple Self-Care Acts to Change Your Day

“I am a mom on a mission” has been my most used phrase lately- because really, my wheels never stop going. But after my recent vacation from work and social media I left with a lot of very, very important lessons. One was- the importance of really making sure my self-care routine is respected.

For the first year of my son’s life- man, did I really stop taking care of myself. There were times where I forgot when the last time a bathe was. Yikes, right?

So the last month I have dedicated myself to my self-care, but what if you’re on the go, busy bee?

One thing I do for myself is make sure my hair is done, my face is clean, and my teeth are brushed. You’re probably like, “wow that’s gross you have to remind yourself to do this.” But I’ve noticed that these three things are often popularly forgotten and need to put on higher respect.

If you suffer from depression- you probably understand this all to well. It is often to easily put off to the side for us who have depression. So how do I fit my minimalist self care into my life?

I made a 10 minute routine because the faster the better. Sometimes I even do all of them in the shower so all of it is taken care of at once. (Yes you heard that, I even brush my hair in the shower.) I motivate myself by telling myself that yes, I WILL feel damn well better after I do this. This is also repeated right before bed- minus the shower. Why? Because it’ll lend hand in starting the day feeling just a little less gross.

Another way to fit in a small but effective self care act is vitamins. I pledge allegiance to the magically power of vitamins. We’ve all tried to eat nutritionally, but even when we try we still don’t always manage to get the right amount of vitamins into our body- and man ever since I started taking my vitamins (I take 12 a day!) I have had more energy, my skin is better, my hair has grown like a weed, and my nails are longer than ever.

Nutrition is often forgotten when we discuss self-care- we will usually discuss the frills and decor of what self-care is- taking bubble baths, doing facial masks, and painting our nails- but that is not realistic daily self-care. This is not what gets us day to day- these are what I consider- luxury self-care.

One of my favorite ways to practice self care is to protect my mental status with grounding and mindfulness. Taking a second to remind myself that I am actually alive and not a zombie going through the motions. Taking ten minutes max to truly feel something and just be is the most important thing to me- out of all the things I have mentions. I will literally take a minute and smell these goddamn roses!

 

 

Four Ways To Annoy a Self-Made Woman

Being a self made woman has its up and downs- embracing a movement about being in complete control of yourself is hard when we live in a society that is so sour towards us. To this day- whenever I attempt to empower myself and pat myself on my back it always turns into about how my husband isn’t getting a pat on his back or what about my son.

Let me tell you- the struggle is real.

I have spent the last 2 years seriously working up my business and myself- and yet there are still moments when I want to throw the white flag down and square up in defense. Why do I even HAVE to defend myself.

So this is for all my other boss ass babes who will probably be able to vibe with all these statements. You totally rock my world girls and you’ll total smack your face with me on these.

  1. “”Aw how cute your [partner] must really love you a lot to let you have this hobby””

Oh boy, yes, I am very glad that my husband is patient with the long hours that I have to work, and late night slumbers I wake up from with a “AH HA” moment and need to get up a right. But don’t get me wrong too- I would never let my husband at the same time limit me from my dream.

2. “”Shouldn’t you use your spare time cleaning or something””

If I had a job that I went out to- would you hassle me like this? No, you wouldn’t. Because this question very much stems from you not thinking my job is legitimate. Anyway- I am a super mom who somehow seems to keep my life in a pretty decent check and balances.

3. “”Why don’t you just get a real job”

I do have a job- I run a small business, blog, and currently working on becoming a Public Speaker. Just because you don’t have the nerve to be a risk taker doesn’t mean I don’t.

4. “”How much money do you actually make?””

It is so beyond rude to ask anyone what their income is, and its really NOT your business. Do not ask me what or how much I make at any point- and I KNOW other queen bees feel the same, especially starting out.

 

 

Why You Need To Visit Grandsons

Why You Need To Embrace Bad Feelings

It could a general concensus that we are all completely and utterly over 2016. For most of us it could easily be said to be one of the hardest years. It was a year of sudden change- and some of us saw that in loss and tragedy.

For me, this year was long and hard. It has seemed to hit me hard every time I have gotten back up from the next one- it has tested my endurance as not only a business owner, but as a person.

One of the many, many lessons I learned to just embrace my feelings. In my gut I would get feelings- but then push them off as nothing. This in the end- one was of my deepest issues that this year has definitely put to bed.

When I learned how to just simply embrace and feel my feelings life seemed to go much better. And yes- this means my anger.

Somewhere in my life the idea that if I ignored my negative feelings then I wouldn’t ACTUALLY be feeling that way- and this become a deadly poison of my life. In doing this, I was actually holding onto my issues for longer, letting them fester until I popped.

So, while there were a lot of moments in this long year  I was angry (and oh yes, I am an angry person) I perpetually let it fester- thinking that this was a way to deal with it.

But recently, it’s clear to me that this is wrong. Wrong in so many level. So my advice?

Feel your anger, feel your despair, FEEL anything. And actually live in the moment. Don’t act on it- but feel it so you can release it. Your feels and energy you get are indictors of your text moves and what needs to go or stay.

How I Changed My Life- For the Best

For people who know me, they can testify for me about what a large life transformation I’ve gone through the last two years. I am much healthier, much happier, and so much more balanced. It’s taken me a really long time since getting clean to really detox from the addict mindset.

Even with being clean there was still that tricky, I-Am-More-Clever-Than-You attidude I had, which had a deadly mixture with all avoidance of the fact that I was in fact an addict.

After I quit- I thought that was the freeing card. No more work- what a fool was I ! Yes- that is right, my mind set was once I was clean it would all slowly fall into place.

So wrong- so totally freaking wrong.

It took me almost 6 long years to learn that if the change I wanted was to come- it was going to have to be achieved through my own sweat, blood, and tears.

So how did I change my life? I accepted I had fucked up- yes I fucked up. And to be honest- I was still messing up pretty bad.

When I finally did that- I was able to look into the mirror and really, really examine my choices and behaviors. And what struck me was: Even though I wasn’t using, I was still acting like an active addict.

It was now time to release all of those behaviors and self defeating thoughts I let clutter my life.

And that is what changed my life. Taking a real close look at myself in the mirror and not liking who I still was.