3 Common Self Defeating Thoughts

During my time in college I was a therapy and social work major- conjoined with my spiritual practice- learned fast that people block their own success and happiness by just their thought processes. Our self talk reflects on our soul’s health- the state of which it is being kept and treated.

When we feed into these thoughts- give them further attention- we find that our behaviors will slowly, and surely follow suit.

“I can’t finish school”

“I can’t lose weight.”

“I can’t get a better job.

“I can’t, I can’t, I can’t”

Saying I can’t has to be the best example of a self fulfilling prophecy. The more you tell yourself you can’t achieve the more likely it is that you can’t- you’re literally attracting failure when you do this. It’s almost as thought you’re SEEKING failure.


“If I make this much money, then I’ll do this”

“If I clean this much then I can relax”

“Once I do this, than I can do this.”

Hey, no one is perfect, and that’s fine. If you don’t treat your small goals like huge one- then you never WILL reach your main goal. This is self defeating because you’re treating yourself in a way that doesn’t allow you to meet yourself like a human being- you’re telling yourself you’re not GOOD enough to embrace relaxation and bliss until you achieve XYZ. Embrace everyday like you deserve to enjoy your daily successes.


“This person plays the flute better than me so…”

“I am not as good as Sally is”

Why do we let other’s success stop us from achieving ours or celebrating hours. This is something I have struggled with my entire life- telling myself since I can’t be the best there is no point in trying. But- why isn’t being our best a measurable act?


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